The Struggle Is REAL

Online Dating: The Struggle Is REAL

Hey guys! It’s your favorite Journal Blogger/ CSR! Whew chile, it’s another Wednesday night and we all know that Wednesday is for writing! Well, I’m going to paint you guys a picture, ready?

Picture this: It’s Friday night and you’re in your place bored out of your mind and it seems like the entire world is boo’d up except for you. What do you do? Well, you take out your phone and start swiping through that trusty dating app that you just downloaded. To be fair, I’ve been doing that for the past couple of days now and let me tell you, I feel like the pickings are slim. Online dating can seriously be a pain in the ass and I just started with this shit again after having deleted the Tinder app a little over two years ago (also, I used to be on Black People Meet). I feel like it’s awkward af sometimes, but it does make the time go by and even though I just started, a few good ones have matched up with me and then there are ones that I asked myself “How the fuck did we match again?” So, I’m going to tell you so far about my experiences with online dating.

1. Coming over after one conversation

-sigh- …bruh…I can’t tell y’all how many times this has happened/is currently happening. Like, my G, are you serious? I’ve had literally one conversation with you and you’re already asking me to come over? We haven’t even been on a date yet or at least out to a happy hour. Seriously, other than trying to get some ass, why do y’all dudes do this? Damn, can I vibe with you first before you try to stick your penis in my pants? Also, if another guy asks me about getting them a discount on a rental, my next response is “Oh, I don’t work for Enterprise, I sell crack. This is just a cover up.”

2. This shit is awkward.

If this isn’t the most awkward experience of my life! Check this out, I’m already awkward as hell and honestly I’m constantly worrying about if I’m being too awkward when conversation starts up or when it comes to the awkward stage of getting to know someone. I’m starting to think the best way to fix this is to meet said guy in person and see where it goes from there. If push comes to shove where we meet and the shit doesn’t end well, I can get in my car and go about my business. Oh, trust and believe I’m meeting said guy in my own vehicle, so when I want to leave, I can and especially if the vibe ain’t right.

3. Holding a conversation.

So back to this whole awkward thing, I am an introvert with extrovert tendencies. Don’t get me wrong, I love being around people, but I can literally only be around people that can hold a conversation. The thing about me is that I real life won’t talk to anybody unless somebody is talking to me. I won’t speak until I’m being brought into the conversation and while it’s not necessarily a flaw, it is something that I need to work on. I’m a great conversationalist, but it’s gotta be a topic that I can relate to. It has to be subject I can run my mouth about. Man, me majoring in Mass Communications while being an introvert is a big ass oxymoron.

4. Does anybody have a bio anymore? If so, does anybody take the time to truly read them?

Soooo…does anybody truly have a bio anymore? If so, do we read them? I’m the type of person that reads your bio. Damn a picture, what do you do for a living? Are you educated? Got kids? Married? Baby mama? Please let me know before I waste my time in swiping right. I’ve seen some profiles with guys and their chick is in the picture with them because they’re on some sister wives type of shit or “My girl got a girlfriend” type stuff. I’m a one man type of girl. I don’t do the sharing thing when it comes to future bae, but at least it was known in the profile. Some of the bios I’ve read are just foolish and with some of these profiles THERE IS NO DAMN BIO. Ugh >_____<

I’m not saying that there haven’t been any success stories from online dating because there have been, but I truly feel like social media has taken away from old fashioned dating.

…and Blair You Have It. Well, looks like I just got a new match. Lawd, lemme see what this one is about. When all you want is someone to chill, vibe with, and go out with to have some fun, this shit is sometimes for the birds, but we’ll see what happens. Check out some similar blog posts: F#$% N#$$%s and Why They’re Actually Needed and The Good Girl and Why She’s Single. Also, make sure you guys are following me on Facebook, IG, and Twitter. Don’t forget to subscribe and check me out on Styrad Magazine at stymag.com. Y’all…please pray for me. It’s lonely out here when you single.